I guess I’m that mom. You know the one, the mom who likes to plan great parties. I’ve read several articles in the past week Party Shaming moms who happen to be crafty, or God forbid, happen to enjoy planning parties. I can’t speak for all the other moms out there who also enjoy these things, but I personally think it’s a load of crap that I am somehow seen as an antagonist. Not once in 19 years have I ever taken the time to worry about trying to impress other moms, much less outdo them, when planning my kids’ birthday parties. I always think about what my kids would like, what their friends would like, and yes, what I think would be fun to try. It’s not a freaking competition.
Do I judge other moms when I take my kids to their kid’s parties? Heck, no. That goes for both ends of the spectrum, too. If a mom wants to spend no more than $50 on a party and have the kiddos play out back, that’s fine by me. I bet they’ll have a blast. If a mom wants to spend $1000 on her first child’s first birthday, that’s also fine by me. I bet those kids will have a blast, too. Either way, it’s none of my business how much they spent or how long it took them to make everything. Who cares!? Neither of those moms likely sat down and strategized how to either show up or scam other moms. They were thinking of their kids, their budgets, or maybe a cool idea they saw on Pinterest. Maybe that elaborate first birthday party is also a celebration because they struggled with infertility and now feel blessed. You don’t know their lives. Stop being so self-righteous.
So, you’re put out that your kid got a bag of cheap toys and candy as a thank you? Did you also roll your eyes when the other mom gave them an adorable miniature tin pail full of homemade cookies? How about if there was no goody bag whatsoever? There’s no winning. Please tell me, what can I give to your child that won’t insult the party police?
People want to gripe about everything. If you personally feel stressed, swindled, or intimidated by other people’s parties, then stop taking your kids to them. Don’t bring your child to a party and think they owe you anything but a good time. They don’t need to justify why they handmade all the decorations, or why they bought a cheap grocery store cake. There is no party approval committee to say those packaged Spongebob decorations from the party store just don’t cut it.
Simply put, some people are more creative than others. Get over it. I won’t stop just because it’s not something you would do. Well, I also won’t stop because that’s a major focus of our website, lol.
Do we really need to add Party Shaming to the list of ways to judge other parents for doing what worked for their family? I say no. Dismount from your high horse and try to relax and enjoy the party instead. The Kool-Aid is delicious!
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